| Feelings when our needs are met | Accepted: included, valued, acknowledged, appreciated, worthy, desirable, important Safe: secure, trusting, protected Glad: happy, excited, energized, passionate, hopeful, encouraged, inspired Connected: included, bonded, intimate, close, warm Lovable: valued, worthy, confident, proud, sexy Satisfied: pacified, thankful, contented, gratified, grateful, fulfilled Clear: calm, peaceful |
| Feelings when our needs are not met | Hurt: rejected, discounted, ignored, abandoned, violated, betrayed Afraid: scared, anxious, worried, nervous, threatened, intimidated, frightened, vulnerable Sad: depressed, despondent, grief, loss, discouraged, empty, numb Lonely: separate, distant, withdrawn, disconnected, detached, alienated Shameful: guilty, unworthy, unlovable, embarrassed, humiliated Angry: disappointed, upset, annoyed, irritated, resentful, frustrated Confused: bewildered, conflicted, perplexed |
| Interpersonal needs | Respect/Consideration Recognition/Acknowledgment/Appreciation/Validation/Confirmation Acceptance/Approval/Tolerance Communication/Information/Feedback Understanding/Clarity Connection/Mutuality/Closeness/Intimacy Friendship/Partnership/Companionship Community/Affiliation/Belonging Compassion/Empathy Support/Nurturing/Comfort/Reassurance Inclusion/Participation/Contribution Cooperation/Collaboration Choice/Autonomy/Freedom Safety/Security/Protection Stability/Consistency/Reliability/Predictability Sensuality/Sexuality Caring/Warmth/Affection/Love |